I always have hope and I think of it as an optimistic hope … that I might live to an old age. … Yet … I do not believe that I will live to see old age. … so… I am just hopeful … and if what I hope for doesn’t happen, then I hope I have made the best of my time. So perhaps I can reduce my hope to the hope that I am living well, that I do more good than bad, that I bring joy to those who love me.

Patricia A. Barr wrote these words at the age of fifty-two, fifteen years after her diagnosis of terminal breast cancer. An “out-liar,” as she called herself, Barr was an activist in multiple worlds: breast cancer, feminism, Judaism, education and the Israeli peace movement.

Born on August 26, 1950, Barr was the oldest of three children born to Marie and Stephen Barr, both of whom immigrated to the U.S. from Hungary. Her father (b. 1919) owned an electrical contracting business in which his wife, Marie, was active. Barr had two younger siblings: Terri (b. 1953) and Michael (b. 1955).

Pat Barr graduated from Bennington College in 1971. Never one to do as everyone else did, Barr then became a self-taught lawyer, clerking for other lawyers in Vermont, taking the bar examinations and achieving the highest score without the benefit of a single law school class. In 1979 she married a fellow lawyer, Rolf Sternberg (b. 1945, Troy, NY) whose parents had emigrated from Germany in 1939. The couple had two children, Shira (b. 1982) and Tava (b. 1986). Together, Barr and Sternberg opened a law practice, now known as Barr, Sternberg, Moss, Lawrence, Silver and Saltonstall, PC, in Bennington, Vermont.

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Barr advocated on behalf of women and families, chairing the Vermont Bar Association’s Family Law Committee and serving as a member of the 1988–1990 Task Force on Gender Bias in the Legal System. She was a family law practitioner who led efforts to assure fair child support and spousal maintenance and remedies for domestic violence victims well before Vermont had a Family Court. Towards the end of her life she became engaged in the issues of patient and doctor care and was a co-founder of the Institute for Medical Humanism.

Following Barr’s death on June 19, 2003, U.S. Senator Patrick Leahy recalled Pat’s breast cancer activism and commented, “Enough work for a lifetime … but Pat didn’t stop there. She became an unwavering voice on the Middle East, bringing reason, understanding, and hope to Israelis and Palestinians.” He concluded, “Pat always asked, but never for herself.”